I am so excited to be participating in a new feature over on the Spanking Romance Review Blog! An ongoing Round Table Discussion pertaining to hot button issues of the spanking community! Every two weeks we will discuss a new topic that is near and dear to the spanking community’s heart. After you read this blog head on over to SRR’s blog to see our debut post and find the links to the other participant’s responses!
This week’s set of questions is about the origin of our spanking desires, and the transition from fantasy to reality.
For those of you that don’t know me, my name is Katherine Deane.
I’m in a Domestic Discipline relationship with my husband of 15 years.
And I’m a Spanko.
I brought up DD to my husband, about a year and a half ago, because it felt like my last resort to save my marriage. I desired the communication and support. I needed the discipline. I wanted to be spanked.
It took us a while to really get comfortable with this new dynamic. It’s a bit of a long story, so I’ll leave it for another time. But I am happy to say, we have finally hit a groove.
His taking over as HOH has helped us tremendously. We don’t argue over stupid stuff anymore, because it’s impossible to argue with someone who is going to paddle your backside when you roll your eyes at him. (I have not improved much in the skillset of respectful communication. But I’m diligently working on it. 😉 )
The biggest issue in my new life, is my confliction over my spanking desires.
I love being spanked! (Well, not all the time. Punishments actually do hurt my feelings as well as my bottom.)
But I still yearn for it.
A good, hard, bare bottom spanking, turns me on.
It arouses me to just think about it.
Sometimes, I watch videos of women getting spanked, and I become so aroused I take my desires to my sleeping husband. (He wakes up kind of grumpy. I get a few swats out of it occasionally, and get both itches scratched. Mmmm, it’s wonderful.)
But it confuses me.
Spankings are supposed to be used for disciplinary purposes in DD. And I have spent a lot of time over his knee, over the bed, leaning up against the wall, you name it… NOT being disciplined… enjoying every stinging, burning swat.
It’s taken me a while, to get over the fact that there is no black and white. There is no line.
I was actually more embarrassed to come out as a Spanko (online only J ), then it was for me to admit to being in a DD relationship.
But after reading some really great authors, meeting some awesome new spanking friends (especially, the women in this circle), and learning to be open about my desires, I came to the following conclusion:
It’s ok to not fit into the round hole.
I am happier now that I have embraced my true self, instead of fighting and shunning it.
I am a submissive in a husband – led, DD relationship.
I am a strong, sensual woman who loves my HOH.
And, I am a Spanko.
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