Welcome to the third edition of the Round Table Discussion – spanking hot topics, hosted by Spanking Romance Reviews.
Anyone that knows me, knows I am energetic and slightly prone to over dramatizing at times. 😉
I love fantasizing, I love playing, and I love getting lost in a scene. That’s probably why I love reading so much. It gives me the opportunity to escape reality, and is more socially acceptable than breaking into song and dance in the middle of the neighborhood. (LOL, I wonder why I haven’t received any more Mary Kay and Juice Plus invitations.)
While I love acting and singing and loud chatting, my husband is the complete opposite. He is the epitome of the Southern Gentleman.
- You do not air your dirty laundry to anyone – not even your best friends.
- You do not walk out of the house un-showered or in sweat pants. (He even showers before he mows the lawn!)
- And you do not incorporate dirty language into bedroom activities.
Though we complement each other, we often find ourselves on different sides when it comes to certain matters. I will go into more detail about our DD journey next time, but suffice it to say, it took a lot to convince him to try spanking as a form of discipline. When he finally agreed to spank me, he couldn’t do it. We agreed that he should not spank in anger, and he argued that he didn’t feel like spanking me if he wasn’t angry.
It was so confusing and overwhelming for both of us. Grrrr! I wanted him to spank me (for many different reasons, which I will expound on later). But he wasn’t comfortable taking his hand to my bare bottom – no matter how much I egged him on. (And believe me, I pushed pretty hard at times.)
I learned about Role Play, while reading one of my “sexy” books, as he calls them. Though that kind of interaction was more sexually based, I saw how it could be manipulated into a spanking scene.
It sounded so easy, and so wonderful! I pictured his stern face as he pulled me over his lap. He would say words like “naughty girl”, and “bare bottom”, and “you won’t sit for a week…”. I would howl and beg for mercy from his hard hand, while he lectured me about proper lady like behavior, and would remind me that putting ex-lax in his sister’s coffee was VERY UNLADYLIKE. Then he would paddle me until I sobbed.
This seemed like a pretty easy scene to play, so I brought it up to him one night.
“Honey, since you don’t like the thought of spanking me for anything but sex, let’s try some role play. I’ll pretend to be a naughty wife. You pull me over your lap, and spank me as hard as you can. OK?”
It probably wasn’t the best idea for me to give him a “script” of what I wanted. I think my “topping from the bottom” set him up for failure. But being the loving husband that he was, he agreed to try.
He led me into the bedroom, and locked the door.
I pouted at him, stomped my foot, and called him a big bully. (I may have even stuck out my tongue. I don’t remember.)
He sat down on the bed, and yanked me over his lap, and said,
“Young La…”
That was the furthest he got before dumping me to the floor, falling backwards on the bed, and giggling. Yes, my full grown, intense Alpha male, was giggling hysterically, and flailing on the bed!
I started laughing at the absurdity of the situation, and we both stared at each other’s red faces, and laughed until we cried.
It was by far, the silliest experience we had had in a long time. (But it is still one of my favorite memories)
I am happy to say, that we finally worked it out. When we took out the extra drama (and the script), and just let things progress naturally, the scenes worked a lot better.
He still does not say anything during role play sessions. But he has improved in the nonverbal aspect. I love the way he maneuvers me over his lap, and holds me tightly. His hand is so hard and methodical- he makes sure not to leave a single inch of my backside untouched. He heats my body, thoroughly dominating and then satiating me. It is so amazing to see the progress we have made, both in and out of the bedroom.
And because of those wonderful (and not so wonderful) role play sessions, he is now much more comfortable “discussing” issues with me.
** A discussion means a thorough bottom warming, just in case you were wondering.**
It still makes me laugh. He can’t say the word “Spank”, but he has definitely figured out the physical side of it.
My Southern Gentleman is loosening up.
And I am leaving my scripts where they belong, on the laptop, ready to be made into fun stories.
I’m thinking the ex-lax in the Sister in Law’s Coffee scene is going to be a big hit, LOL!
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Ha ha! You crack me up. I love the giggling. I think a lot of first role play goes that way. And the exlax in the sister’s coffee is an excellent ploy!!! LOL
Hehe, I have been told I have quite the devious mind, Renee!
Thanks!
I’m glad to know other first timers have “issues” as well. 🙂
Practice makes perfect, hopefully!
Excellent role play scene. I hope that you will role play more often. Halloween is almost here, lots of sexy costumes for that day. Have fun.
Hug,
joey
Thanks, Joey!
I would love to some more fun scenes.
Yay for Halloween!
🙂
You really made me laugh at your description of your first foray into roleplay. But a good dose of laughter is good for a marriage! Thanks so much for sharing your story
Thanks, Tara!
You are absolutely right!
We had a period of no laughter, several years ago, and honestly, we were both pretty miserable.
It was pretty rough.
Thankfully, we found our joy again. And spanking played a huge part in helping us.
🙂
Now I really wished we lived in the same neighborhood so we could sing and dance on the sidewalks together!
Thank you so much for sharing your role playing experience. This sounds like what would happen with me and my husband, we laugh all the time. But sounds like you and your husband are finding a groove you can work in!
Casey, I can totally picture you and Katherine singing & dancing in the streets! We must make this happen & be sure to videotape it! 🙂
LOL, we could win $100 on AFHV!
Please move into my neighborhood, Casey!
We would have so much fun!
Thanks 🙂
What a sweet post. It made me smile. Your husband is a sweetie for doing his best to meet your needs. He loves you very much.
Thanks, Cara!
You’re right! He is such a good husband.
I probably don’t say that enough. But I know it was hard for him to accept such a big responsibility.
And he has really gotten into it!
🙂
lovely that you’ve made this journey together 🙂 I love your husband laughing hysterically that first role play attempt.
LOL, Thanks Joelle. It was pretty silly!
🙂
So funny! It’s like we’re the same person – our experiences are so similar! Love it. Love that he fell giggling when trying the role play. Love that you could laugh together then try it again – without the script. Thanks for sharing – it was a fun and intimate read.
Thanks, Natasha!
It’s fun comparing experiences! I like that we have similar journeys and experiences. 🙂
I can’t wait to read yours.
I always love reading your posts, Katherine! You always make me laugh & smile. I can totally picture the two of you cracking up trying to play out that scene. I have a feeling that he will feel more than comfortable with the verbal aspect eventually just like everything else.
Thanks so much, Corinne!
I really hope so! I am dying for some “naughty girl” talk!
🙂
Thanks!!!
Being able to laugh and be goofy with one’s partner is priceless. At the end of the day, this kink stuff is supposed to be fun, ya know? 🙂
You are so right, Erica! It’s fun to loosen up! And laughter is definitely a big part of our relationship.
Thanks 🙂
Hysterical!
Thanks, Sheri 🙂
Lovely post, Katherine, thanks for sharing 🙂
And I can identify! My partner found it hard to stay ‘in character’ at first, and would laugh, and be nervous, and check that everything was okay, and just generally hold back. Which is sweet, of course! But yes, as with anything else, the experience gets better with time and ‘practice’.
Your post also brought to mind something I had meant to include in my own: the thought that, just as with submission, trust is an indispensable element in roleplay. When we play we are putting our dignity in the hands of another; we are counting on them to value our fantasy and our need to fantasise, to validate these things, to share in the experience and in so doing make it whole.
I think it takes a good deal of courage on both (or all) participants’ parts to ‘put themselves out there’ in such a manner, and I think this is where practice really helps. That is, trying something new or scary and finding that, actually, it isn’t all that bad. (Actually, it’s really quite nice… let’s do it again!) 🙂