This is a great topic, and I’m so glad Renee Rose brought this up. Thanks to Renee and Spanking Romance for hosting. 🙂
Aftercare is very important to me, as a reader an author, and as a DD’er.
It’s very important, sometimes even more crucial than the punishment itself – at least for me, anyway.
I am a sensitive (ok, hyper sensitive and over emotional) woman. I internalize every look, every comment, every action. I am a people pleaser, and the thought of displeasing someone, especially my HOH, hurts me greatly. (I should have also mentioned over-reactor in my list of attributes ).
Aftercare, is a necessary transition from the punishment to the closure that I need with my husband.
When he punishes me (usually in the form of a strict spanking), I know it is different than a sexy or fun spanking because of my guilt or my hurt over his displeasure. There is nothing sexy or fun about the punishment.
My bottom aches.
My heart aches.
But when it’s all over, he covers me with his body, like a warm blanket.
He holds me until I stop shivering and shaking.
His warmth envelopes me, and makes me feel loved.
I feel his forgiveness as it seeps into me, and I am finally able to release the guilt and forgive myself.
Now here is where it gets tricky. Do you know when I start crying?
During the aftercare.
I don’t usually cry during a punishment, no matter how upset I am; no matter how agonizing the belt feels lashing onto my poor backside; no matter how awful the strike of the Lexan.
I have had shaking, hiccupping sessions, where I have cried without tears. But have not very often cried real tears.
The care he gives me, when he spoons against me, or holds me against his chest after an over the bed spanking; when he is soothing me with his presence, with his warmth, and his love- that is when I finally break down the last piece of resistance.
Then I cry. I release all the tension, the guilt, everything. And I know I am loved.
This is what aftercare does for me in my real life.
It is crucial to my emotional well being.
And I am blessed that he gives me this care after each and every session.
LOL, I’m not even sure if I answered any of the questions, but this is where my heart led me on this topic, so I went with it. 🙂
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