Erotica Writers and Erotic Lives, from Patricia Green

Hey Friends!   Patricia Green is taking over my blog today. Enjoy!

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Erotica writers must be twenty-five year old models or superstars who are keeping themselves anonymous by using a pen name and a clever disguise. Well, that’s what a lot of people think. But the fact is, erotica writers are just like everyone else. They are all ages, all sizes, from all walks of life, with husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends (sometimes more than one), with kids, without kids, employed, unemployed, disabled or exercise buffs. The things they have in common are a fertile imagination and a desire to make the reader excited. No one writes published erotica without thinking about how it will affect the reader.

Like all kinds of fiction writers, erotica writers are going for a reaction. Not just any reaction, but one that makes the readers’ toes curl and a blush steal over her cheeks. Sometimes, it makes them squeeze their legs together, or hide their private parts under a pillow. Oo, la, la! The point is the reaction. We never want you to be bored or skip over the sexy bits to get to the “good parts.” And, although we want there to be a story, too, to us the “good parts” include the erotic content.

Where do erotica writers get their inspiration? Do they all have phenomenal sex lives? You’d have to ask a lot of erotica writers for honest answers to Kinsey-esque questions. But, exactly like their variations in social status and family life, I’m betting there is a complete spectrum of sexiness among erotica writers. Some are more intimate than sexy. A few are crazed sex maniacs. Most are somewhere in the middle, with healthy sex lives that are influenced by everyday events. When the kids are sick, the sex life goes on hiatus, but the intimacy continues (we hope). Intimacy doesn’t always mean sex. It often means a glance and a shy smile, or holding hands on the couch, or sharing a spoonful of crème brulée. Many of these things find their way into erotica, especially erotic romance. Intimacy is the ultimate in romantic. And sex, for an erotic writer, can be wild and crazy or slow and steady. If he’s a good erotic writer, there will be a mix in his book, as there is in real life relationships. Even one night stands are often a mixed up melding of styles meant to excite the primitive urges.

The bottom line is that you don’t have to live an erotic life to write erotica. You have to have an imagination, the desire to make the reader feel something special, and a strong grasp of what intimacy and romance are. The writer might not be interested in romance, but she has to know what qualifies. There are some pretty dirty stories out there, and they certainly can be erotic under the right circumstances, but not every one will move you. If one does, it’s a keeper, meant to be dog-eared and marked up and a sexy friend for life.

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Patricia Green is a full-time fiction writer specializing in erotic romance. She writes love stories that emphasize fun characters with quirky personalities. Patricia is the author of more than 20 published novels and novellas.

In her personal life, Patricia is married and the mother of twins. When she’s not being the angel of domestic harmony and a semi-crazed creator of fictional friends, she loves to read, crochet, knit and watch hockey and baseball.

You can reach Patricia Green in the following ways:

Email: pig (at) patriciagreenbooks (dot) com

Website/Blog: http://www.patriciagreenbooks.com

Spanking romance pages: http://patriciagreenbooks.com/books-featuring-spanking/

Facebook http://www.facebook.com/Patricia.Green.Romance

Twitter: @PatriciaIGreen

Google+: http://plus.google.com/+PatriciaGreen

Amazon Author Page:  http://www.amazon.com/Patricia-Green/e/B002RCB0IK/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_1

Goodreads Author Page: http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/4541511.Patricia_Green

 

6 thoughts on “Erotica Writers and Erotic Lives, from Patricia Green

  1. Natasha Knight

    I enjoyed the article. Thanks ladies. Do you find when a man learns you’re a writer of erotic romance that the reaction is different than when you tell a woman? I do and I’m curious if you’ve had the same experience. Women are all over the place (accepting, ignoring, totally uncomfortable…) whereas men are like ‘hey, come sit by me and let’s talk…’

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    1. katherinedeane Post author

      I loved this too, Natasha! And so spot on about the real life sometimes dictating the sex life. I will be very interested to hear what Patricia says. I have not really told many people about my writing – besides my sisters.
      So I don’t have any experience with it yet.

      So in your experience, the guys have been a little “Beavis’y”, hehe 😉 ?
      Thanks!
      🙂

      Reply
  2. Patricia Green

    Well, I don’t tell many men what exactly I write, because I don’t want to make them uncomfortable. I’m a middle aged married lady, so I’m not supposed to be thinking about “those things.” Whispered: But I do. 🙂

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  3. Roz Harrison

    What? Erotic writers are just like anybody else? Surely not 🙂 It is interesting the image some have of erotic writers. Really enjoyed reading this, thank you for sharing ladies 🙂 I too have wondered about the typical reactions when people discover you are an erotic writer.

    Hugs
    Roz

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