Sex and Writing

Hey y’all! Cara Bristol is hijacking my blog for the day, so I can get some biiiiiig stuff done. 🙂 Thanks, Cara. Take it away!

Sex and Writing

A quickie for those bi-curious about writing

By Cara Bristol


Erotic romance authors use words to write about sex. But what if we used sex to describe writing?


Foreplay – Writing exercises or rituals that get you into the mood to write.

Ejaculation – Sending the completed manuscript to an editor or agent

Premature ejaculation – Sending the manuscript too soon, before it’s polished and ready.

Oral sex – Talking about writing, rather than actually doing it.

Polyamory or ménage –Working on multiple manuscripts at the same time.

Bi-curious, bi-sexual –Writing in two different genres or subgenres.

One night stand – Sneakily writing something other than the manuscript you should be working on.

Infidelity – Same as a one night stand, only it lasts longer and can result in the abandonment of the original manuscript.

Bondage – Contractual obligations to write a book.

Discipline – Having a regular writing schedule. Writing when you don’t feel like it.

Orgasm – Getting a book contract, a royalty check, or an email from a fan.

Getting fucked – A drive-by one-star review.

Quickie – A short piece of writing.

Libido – The desire to write.

Dysfunction – Writer’s block

Making love –Writing something that brings you great pleasure


Author Bio

Cara Bristol is the author of Naughty Words for Nice Writers, a Sexual and Spanking Thesaurus and 17 erotic romance novels and novellas. She’s been published by as Loose Id, Decadent Publishing, Blushing Books, and Black Velvet Seductions. She is best known for her Rod and Cane Society domestic discipline erotic romance series and the Breeder sci-fi erotic romance trilogy. She holds a B.A. in journalism, but took several human sexuality classes in college because she thought they would be easy As. (Two were, one wasn’t). Married with two grown step kids, Cara lives in the sunny state of Missouri where people often look askance when she tells them what she does for a living.

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Naughty Words for Nice Writers Blurb

If you’ve struggled to find the right tone for your romantic sex scene, stared at the computer for 15 minutes trying to come up with the perfect verb, become stymied because some terms are too crude while others are too flowery, or found yourself reusing the same words over and over, Naughty Words for Nice Writers, A Sexual and Spanking Thesaurus can help you break through those barriers. Cara Bristol, the author of 17 erotic romances, has written a guide to help you find the erotic words to write a sex scene that sizzles.

Naughty Words for Nice Writers is packed with more than 1,200 usable, functional synonyms geared for romance, erotic romance, and erotica. Included are 28 different “erotic word lists” such as male and female anatomy, foreplay, orgasm, specific sexual acts and kink, sexual noises, spanking terminology, and much more. The guide offers suggestions on how to write a sex scene and how to tighten your writing so it sings.

With an emphasis on verbs, this guide will help you “show” the intimacy between your characters rather than tell it. Whether you’re writing a “fade to black” scene or a graphic and explicit one, Naughty Words for Nice Writers will give you the words.

Naughty Words for Nice Writers is available in paperback, ebook, and PDF (for your laptop or tablet).


Naughty Words on Amazon – Paperback and Kindle


Barnes & Noble – Paperback and Nook


PDF on All Romance



6 thoughts on “Sex and Writing

  1. rozharrison

    LoL Cara, I love this. Never thought about using sex to describe writing:) This book is such a fantastic

    Thank you for hosting Katherine. Good luck with your big stuff 🙂



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