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Spanking A-Z Challenge – C: The Car Accident

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Would you believe I had a perfectly wonderful post ready to go (almost), about crafting, with plenty of pretty pictures of all the fun things I like to make?

Only to be slammed with an idea for a different post at the last minute.

It is 8 pm the night before my post is due, and I have decided to write about something a little more intimate. (When these thoughts hit me, they hit hard, and I feel compelled to follow through with them)

For those of you who have not read my blog very often, you should know that sometimes I like to share my full emotions. This is one of those posts. Part of it is graphic in nature, but I felt it a necessary part of my story. I promise, I am not always, THIS intimate. And my next posts will be quite happy and light again.

But today here is my new, last minute post called :

The Car Accident

Almost ten years ago, (on the day of my birthday), I was riding my bike on the parkway in my neighborhood when I was hit from behind by a car. Though it was a 35 mph zone, most people go up to 45 – sometimes, more. We are pretty sure she was going at least that fast.

I remember sensing her behind me, hearing the squeal of the tires, and thinking upon impact,

Oh sh*t, this is going to hurt!

My bike was struck from behind, and I flew up onto her windshield, and flew what seemed like 100 feet, before rolling to the ground.

I don’t remember how much it hurt when I hit the pavement.

I do remember being surrounded by people; a military couple in BDU’s; a woman who prayed over me; and the 16 year old girl who had hit me, sobbing.

Someone told me I had lost my helmet during the crash, and not to move because I was bleeding.

And then I threw up. I was overcome with this awful dizziness, and even more vomiting. It was the worst feeling ever.

When the paramedics arrived, the strapped me down to a board and put a neck brace on me.

When the vertigo came again, they tilted my whole board to the side, so I wouldn’t choke on my own vomit.

I was a mess. A huge f**king mess.

But I was blessed in several huge ways.

Besides the cuts and bruises, there were no major injuries. I had some internal issues with my pancreas, and a head injury.

But things could have been so much worse. If anything had gone differently, I could have easily been run over. I could have died on my birthday.

I have counted my many blessings since that day.

As funny as it is to say, I credit that accident with having my first baby.

(I had miscarried, a year earlier, and was having difficulties getting pregnant)

A lot of my friends and family, like to joke that I finally got pregnant because I was forced to lay in bed for two whole weeks after the accident.

I wasn’t able to lay at more than an 80 degree angle without getting dizzy and sick. (LOL, it made for a few interesting procreation attempts. My husband has made me promise not to give any more details than that. 😉  )

Now, anyone who has ever had a head injury, or known someone with one, will tell you;

That sucker doesn’t go away.

Personalities sometimes change.

Lifestyles change.

Processing and thinking can even change.

 

I have finally come to the conclusion, that my severe mood swings, and constant anger (which I had originally attributed to PPD, because it happened around the same time), might not have been Pregnancy and Post Partum hormones.

It might have been due to a shift because of my head injury.

I still to this day, get dizzy with atmosphere changes and huge weather shifts. I can’t do cartwheels anymore, or go upside down ( no more roller coasters. Boo 😦 )

And I am susceptible to big mood swings.

I hope I don’t sound like I’m complaining. I love most of my life. I am blessed in so many ways, and am happy to be alive.

But I still wonder sometimes about the head injury.

If a head injury can shift your personality, and add anger, and other sides that weren’t that major beforehand, then what about my fetish?

I wonder if I am really a spanko.

Or did this head injury turn me into something different?

If I had not already been married, it wouldn’t be a big deal.

I’m a Spanko now. Embrace it. Love it. Just go with it.

But what about my spouse who married me, BEFORE I was a Spanko?

What happens when a spouse changes, overnight?

Is it the head injury?

Am I really a psychotic, bipolar, be-yotch of a woman, that now thrives on getting her *ss beaten because her personality changed due to a jolt to her brain?

I am willing to wager against this possibility.

I do remember being very interested whenever I saw spankings in books or on tv. My most memorable was Little House on the Prairie.

So maybe my spanking side was always there, along with my submissive side? Just buried dormant within me?

Maybe?

I hope so.

Not because I worry about being who I am, but mostly for my husband’s sake.

That would really stink to have your partner change, in the middle of your marriage.

With all that being said, I still think spanking, and DD (for now), is a blessing to our relationship.

We are closer than we have ever been. Even when comparing our early years together.

We talk more, we listen more. We snuggle and flirt more.

Our bedroom time is as good as, if not better than our first years together.

So, I guess there really isn’t a problem.

As long as he isn’t upset by who I have become (head injury or otherwise), then I will stick with it. I’ll keep asking for spankings.

Occasionally, I may even brat a tiny bit. 🙂

There it is. My intimate post written at the last minute, because I felt the nudge to share.

C is for car accident.

The day my life changed forever.

For the positive.

(except for missing out on roller coasters, of course)

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Love Our Lurkers Day 2013

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Happy “Love Our Lurkers” Day!

Thanks, Bonnie, for coming up with this great community event!

In honor of LOL8, 2013, I thought I would try to lure some of the readers out of the shadows! 

I am giving away a $5 Blushing Books gift certificate to one lucky replier today.  (Please leave your name and email address with your comment, if you want to be entered in the drawing!)

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So let’s talk about spanking!

Even though I live the 24/7 life of a spankee, with my HOH (AKA- Hubby), I still like to escape into my fantasy spanking world every once in a while.  Since my husband has taken on the role of HOH, but not succumbed to the dark side, ( in terms of spanking entertainment), I am left to my own spanky devices.

>Reading

>occasional scenes in movies (Thank God for the “replay” button on my DVR– and for John Wayne!)

>spanking tube videos

> and fantasizing.

My latest fun activity is to characterize the Spanker worthiness of other people.

LOL, I’ve tried celebrities, sports figures, neighbors, and the Bush’s beans guy (Roll that beautiful bean footage!).

Here is my list so far:

Guys I would like to be spanked by:

Sean Connery- Young or old. I would love to be spanked by the real James Bond!

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Harrison Ford – He carries a bull whip! Please let him be a spanko! I also have a thing for hot professors.

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Legolas – Mmmm, an elf spanking!

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Aragorn – He carries a broad sword, and he’s half elf!

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Joe Manganiello – werewolfs, vampires, ah Hell!, I’ll take any of the paranormal hotties from True Blood!

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Harry Dresden – Wizards give good spanks!

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Michael Landon / AKA “Pa” – I would love to go out to his woodshed for a good switchin’!

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John Boy – Ok, I had a thing for him and the Hardee boys, which leads me to…

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Parker Stevenson – the 40 year old, not the 20 year old.

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Ted Mosby, architect. – Even though he is a Sensy, he can give good “eye”. He has spanker potential.

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Ewan McGregor – Mmmmm, lightsaber!  And he can sing!

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Mr. Miyagi – he can do his ka-ra-te heating moves on my booty, anytime! Wax on, Wax off!

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Patrick Stewart – Psychic Mutant or Captain of the USS Enterprise, I don’t care. I will happily take a good spanking from this “daddy figure”.

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Vince Lombardi – ’59-67. Go Pack! An iron will and determination means my spanking will be done good and proper!  Ooh, and think of the awesome lecture potential. Yes, I am a winner!

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Ok, that’s all the time I have for today. If I get off the computer in time, I can go get a good girl spanking from my real life spanker, AKA Hubby.

Please add to my list! Who would you like to be spanked by if you are a spankee?

Or who would you most like to spank if you are a spanker?

Thanks for stopping by!

Happy L8L Day!

Round Table Discussion – week 1- Intro

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I am so excited to be participating in a new feature over on the Spanking Romance Review Blog! An ongoing Round Table Discussion pertaining to hot button issues of the spanking community! Every two weeks we will discuss a new topic that is near and dear to the spanking community’s heart. After you read this blog head on over to SRR’s blog to see our debut post and find the links to the other participant’s responses!

And don’t forget to check out the other fantastic submissions by Renee Rose, Casey McKay, Natasha Knight, and Corinne Alexander.

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This week’s set of questions is about the origin of our spanking desires, and the transition from fantasy to reality.

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For those of you that don’t know me, my name is Katherine Deane.

I’m in a Domestic Discipline relationship with my husband of 15 years.

And I’m a Spanko.

I brought up DD to my husband, about a year and a half ago, because it felt like my last resort to save my marriage. I desired the communication and support. I needed the discipline. I wanted to be spanked.

It took us a while to really get comfortable with this new dynamic. It’s a bit of a long story, so I’ll leave it for another time.  But I am happy to say, we have finally hit a groove.

His taking over as HOH has helped us tremendously.  We don’t argue over stupid stuff anymore, because it’s impossible to argue with someone who is going to paddle your backside when you roll your eyes at him. (I have not improved much in the skillset of respectful communication. But I’m diligently working on it.  😉 )

The biggest issue in my new life, is my confliction over my spanking desires.

I love being spanked! (Well, not all the time. Punishments actually do hurt my feelings as well as my bottom.)

But I still yearn for it.

A good, hard, bare bottom spanking, turns me on.

It arouses me to just think about it.

Sometimes, I watch videos of women getting spanked, and I become so aroused I take my desires to my sleeping husband. (He wakes up kind of grumpy. I get a few swats out of it occasionally, and get both itches scratched. Mmmm, it’s wonderful.)

But it confuses me.

Spankings are supposed to be used for disciplinary purposes in DD.  And I have spent a lot of time over his knee, over the bed, leaning up against the wall, you name it… NOT being disciplined… enjoying every stinging, burning swat.

It’s taken me a while, to get over the fact that there is no black and white. There is no line.

I was actually more embarrassed to come out as a Spanko (online only J ), then it was for me to admit to being in a DD relationship.

But after reading some really great authors, meeting some awesome new spanking friends (especially, the women in this circle), and learning to be open about my desires, I came to the following conclusion:

It’s ok to not fit into the round hole.

I am happier now that I have embraced my true self, instead of fighting and shunning it.

I am a submissive in a husband – led, DD relationship.

I am a strong, sensual woman who loves my HOH.

And, I am a Spanko.

Thanks for stopping by!

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Please feel free to leave your own comments. And stop by and visit SRR and the other great participants!

Fantasy vs. Reality – A chat with Patricia Green

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KD: Thanks so much for joining me today, Patricia. This is a subject that is very personal to me. The subject of fantasy vs. reality – holding a real spouse to a fictitious standard.  And since we are both in DD relationships, I thought it would be fun to talk about some real life experiences as well.

PG: It’s great being here with you, Katherine. Thank you for inviting me to join you.

KD:  Ok, I’m just going to jump in with one of my biggest issues.  My biggest problem early in DD, was that I was comparing (and resenting) my husband to the expert HOHS in the books I read. I realize now this is unhealthy for me, and is very disrespectful to him.
But it’s so easy to do. The characters, even when flawed, seem to always be almost perfect HOH’s.

PG: Yes, I find that there are a growing number of women who resent their spouses because they’re not like the heroes they read about. This is not only true for spanking fiction, but also very true for romance in general. The issues with romance as a genre have been around for a long time. But, whether you’re talking DD or Regencies, there has to be a separation between fantasy and reality. Some people let the lines blur. I think this might be truer for an empathic person like yourself, Katherine.

KD: That’s why I sometimes shift to paranormal if I’m not in a safe mind set. It’s far easier to remember that a spanking vampire, is in fact, fantasy.

I’m serious about this.  Sometimes, I can differentiate between the contemporary hero and real life hero (AKA hubby) easily.  But occasionally, it becomes hard to separate, so I find it easier to jump into a regency or old time western story.  To be perfectly honest, science fiction and fantasy are still my favorites. (I really wish someone would do a Star Trek or Battle Star Galactica themed spanking romance.)

PG: The fact is, the women (almost exclusively) who write this stuff are building fantasies. They take what they think is the “perfect hero” and put him on the page. Have they ever met the “perfect hero” in person? Not a chance. There is no such person. Everyone has flaws. And, let’s face it, none of us wives are perfect either. Do we have a legitimate right to demand it from our HoH’s?

KD: That’s a very good point.  In real life, I despise what age is doing to my body.  But it would be so hurtful and wrong of my husband to demand that I remain as my “thirty something” self.  It wouldn’t be fair to either of us to hold on to that image.  It’s fantasy.

KD: I understand that you are in a DD relationship as well.  Did you have any struggles with resentment, or HOH images?  How did you get into this relationship?

PG:  The first DD relationship I was in was when I was 19. The man I was involved with was 42. I think it would be safe to say that I was looking for a stern father-figure, something I didn’t have growing up. Although I went on to a vanilla relationship after that, I wasn’t as happy in that situation. I divorced my vanilla husband, not because there was anything wrong with him — he was and is a very good guy and a great dad to our daughters. It was more a discontentment within me. I believe that’s the kind of discontentment that eats at a relationship like a cancer. There are a few things that can be done about it. A woman can decide that the other parts of her relationship are more important than her DD desires (I know more than a few women who have done this, and it works for them), or she can ask her husband to try to work with her on migrating the relationship to a DD one.

KD: That’s what I did. I brought DD to my husband, and asked him to take charge of our marriage.  It was pretty scary, but thankfully, he didn’t laugh or make fun of my request.  But it felt like a last resort for me.  We were both unhappy, and I wanted the structure.

We have been doing DD for over a year and a half.  And even though it isn’t strictly DD, it’s a decision that we both agree has been the best decision for us. Spanking helped save our marriage.

PG:  Well, what is “strict DD,” or are you comparing book-based DD against real life DD? Because in real life, every couple has a different way of dealing with incompatibilities. DD couples are no different from vanilla couples in that regard. Your version of DD is not, and should not, be the same as any other couple’s. There is no rule or cannon for you to cling to; you have to make it up as you go along.

KD: Great point! I can already see our next blog topic.

KD:  How did you learn about DD? Was it from an online source or a book?

PG:  DD books weren’t around at that time, or not sold where “nice girls” shopped, so the only measuring sticks I had were that early relationship and my own desire for discipline. I knew I needed discipline imposed upon me externally, so that’s what I sought. I had no words for it at the time, DD wasn’t part of my vocabulary.

KD: That’s how I felt before I learned about DD. So you didn’t have anyone to compare your new HOH to, (no fictitious super spankos) probably making it a lot easier, right?

PG:  Actually, you don’t have to read about the uber-DD-hero. You can dream him up all the same, and that dream guy can have the same effect on you. No one else is good enough.

KD:  I loved how you related it to just every day coveting. It’s such a good point. We don’t always need characters to compare and create something in our mind, better.  The grass is always greener, right?

PG:  It’s just like having a daydream of a mansion on a hill, when your budget is more an apartment in the suburbs. It’s something to admire, but you disrespect what you have if you’re not careful.

KD: Well said.  Ok, so back to fantasy.  Who is your favorite fictitious HOH?

PG:  My favorite fictitious HOH is Ace Journey, from Ace-High Flush. It might be rather apparent as I keep coming back to him in the books, even for small segments of the story. He’s strong, masculine, mature, dominant, but very loving and romantic. He spanks for discipline and for eroticism. Ace is crazy in love with his young wife, Gabby, and that love translates into lots of care, concern and passion.

KD:  I loved Ace and Gabby. My husband and I also use spanking for discipline and eroticism.

What’s one of your favorite behaviors from Ace? I loved their story, and appreciated the fact that he doesn’t look down on or disrespect Gabby, even though she is over 15 years younger than him.

PG:  Favorite behavior… Ace reasons with Gabby, but he doesn’t take any wheedling. My husband is the same way. He can spot manipulation a mile away and takes a very dim view of it.

KD: My husband is starting to figure out my manipulative tendencies too. 🙂  Alas.

KD: So how does one, especially an empathetic person like me, safely read these wonderful stories without resenting our imperfect spouses?

PG:  You know, there’s an old saying about “good fences make good neighbors.” In many respects, the same can be said for fiction and reality. You have to keep your fences intact. Maintain them carefully. Don’t neglect them or forget they’re there. Remember that you need them in order to keep your real life from deteriorating because you’re lost in make-believe worlds. The heroes in fiction are deceptive. If a writer is good, the story will seem like a home-movie of a couple living their real life. But that’s not the case. No relationship has a planned trajectory that ends in a happily ever after. Real relationships aren’t planned, plotted out, or outlined, they’re organic. That’s what makes them so special, and something no meddling writer can ever really bring to you. Enjoy what you have, make your own happy ending, and don’t pine for make-believe worlds. None of us really has a fairy godmother.

KD: That was so brilliantly stated.  I have read some fantastic authors who do such a great job of building the characters and relationships, that I can’t help, but pine for what they have.

But I can continue to read and enjoy these awesome stories, if I just remember that they are fiction. Beautifully written, “want to get lost in it”, 5 star stories… but still, fiction. 

Is that right?

PG: Absolutely. Remember that your husband is a lot more than type on a page. He’s got true emotions, needs and goals. He won’t be predictable like the usual romance plot. That makes him a lot more satisfying. Why would you want to exchange him for a cardboard hero? You wouldn’t. Keep that in mind.

KD: Thank you so much for agreeing to talk with me about DD, your personal life, your characters, and the boundaries between fantasy and real life.  And thank you for creating such great characters and fun worlds for me to escape into. At least for a little while.  🙂

PG: Real life has a way of testing our character. If I can help you deal with that, give you a break from a difficult problem, I’m honored to do it. My thanks for relying on my books to help you cope a teensy bit better. There’s nothing wrong with escapism, so long as your whole life isn’t an escape.

KD:  Thanks again. I can’t wait to see what you come up with next.

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Ace and Gabby’s book is Ace-High Flush, book 2 of the Journey Family series. The blurb goes like this:

Gabriella Appleby is a struggling young, large-size model who can’t quite behave. She tries, but sometimes telling the truth just doesn’t seem like the right thing to do. Not thinking things through also seems to be high on her list of to-do items.

Ace Journey is interested in Gabby, and cares about her enough to want to make an indelible impression on her. No one has taught her to behave, and he figures he’s the man to do it. Although their New York/New Jersey rendezvous takes him out of his natural element, don’t let his Texas drawl fool you. He’s smart and capable, and more than a match for the city streets.

Gabby wants Ace, and Ace wants Gabby. Unfortunately, her errors in judgment lead them to a fork in the road where they must part. Miserable about it, they find that an unlikely matchmaker—billionaire Jonny Chow—steps in to show them just how much they mean to each other.

It’s available at Amazon and Blushing Books.

There’s also an extended excerpt and character profiles on Patricia Green’s website.:)

Sometimes, a gal just wants to be spanked!

Bad, naughty Zoot! You must spank her well. And then, spank me.

Bad, naughty Zoot!
You must spank her well.
And then, spank me.

Sometimes a gal just needs to be spanked.

Ok, I’m in one of THOSE moods again. I can’t really explain it.

I’m flighty, hyper, my attention won’t hold for 15 minutes, let alone long enough to finish the blog post I need to finish. My head is spinning with a gazillion (bajillion any better?) thoughts that are just out of my reach.  All I can think about right now, is the one thing that got me here to begin with.

Spanking

I’m having another day where I just can’t get IT out of my head. The sounds, the glorious feeling, the warmth, the heat, the connection with my spanker, and dare I say, the arousal that almost always comes from this.

I love spankings!

I love being spanked (by my husband. Don’t get me wrong. I have fantasized about other men taking me in hand before, but I know this is fantasy, and that my hubby would be hurt by me accepting another man’s attentions.  So that stays in the realm of fantasy.)

I stare longingly, while watching a session on spankingtube, living vicariously through another woman’s delightful bottom warming.

Sometimes, I watch school girls get spanked by head mistresses. It is fun, and kind of silly.  Sometimes, I watch men take their women over their knees for play.

Sometimes, I see a man discipline his wife for something like overspending or texting while driving.  (I can empathize and realistically envision this scenario, since I am one to overspend when I get stressed.)

Some of the scenes seem real, some are acted out.

Usually I don’t care. If the spanking is good and hard, I will give some leeway on acting skills.

I prefer the scenes that are just about the spanking, instead of showing private sexual encounters. I like sharing their spanking scene, but don’t want to share their further intimacy. Which is ironic, because I love READING about sex after spankings, and often times find myself so aroused after my own spankings that I initiate the further actions with my hubby.

The point is I love thinking about IT,

Seeing IT,

Hearing IT,

And most of all, feeling IT.

Watching a spanking video gives me the opportunity to receive most of my spanking input.  I watch, mesmerized as the woman’s bare bottom bounces up and down, reddening with each firm smack. I like it when she wiggles around and tries to escape, creating in me the vision of non-consensual punishment, and a need to escape.  It is delicious.

I get very aroused watching these, and picture myself in these scenes.  I can easily picture myself squealing and wiggling over my HOH’s lap, as he attacks my poor bottom.  I shudder, shimmy, whimper, and moan, while he continues his show of dominance over me, on my bare bottom.  (Sometimes, I get so aroused by visualizing a glorious OTK session.  I wake up hubby, so we can finish the next sequence of delightful events. He has not complained yet. 🙂)

But I love most of all, to put it all together into one big scene that my HOH and I take part in – our own spanking scene.  Sometimes, it is for discipline, sometimes for maintenance and role affirmation, and sometimes for fun.  To be perfectly honest, I will almost happily accept any of it.

I like to be spanked.

Our first role play scene involved hubby forcing me over his knee and paddling me into submission. I tried to escape the onslaught of his hard, fast hand. I bucked and bounced, I cried out, and begged him to stop.  His lap was so hard, his hand even harder. Again and again, he spanked, leaving no portion of my bottom and thighs untouched, choosing to sometimes attack the same spot. I howled and begged some more, as he threw his leg over my legs, and shushed me.

(I wanted him to call me “naughty”, and tell me to “take what I had coming to me like a good girl”. But alas, he wasn’t quite ready for that much acting. )

After a very long, intense session, that included his hand, a few wooden implements, and a belt, I finally lay in a heap over his lap- worn out, my sore bottom aching and hot, feeling loved and content and peaceful. (And completely aroused)

This is what spanking does for me.  I can fantasize about it, read it, watch it, listen to it, or receive it.  They all fill a void in me, and ground me, and help me connect with myself and my HOH.

And when I don’t receive any of this stimulation, I feel agitated, easily angered, tired, unfocused, and sometimes, even a little bit unloved.

Spanking brings me back to life somehow.

It invigorates me, and gives me a chance to be still and focus.

Most of all, it gives me a chance to revel in who I am – the real me.

My name is Katherine Deane.

I am a Spanko.

And right now, I could really use a good, long, bare bottom spanking.

Interview with spanking new author – Casey McKay

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I had the pleasure of meeting a brand spanking new author online the other day.

Even better, she’s an author of spanking romance. My Favorite!

After reading her debut novel, Catch a Falling Star, and some of her blog posts, I knew I had to interview this gal.

She loves lingerie, chocolate, (not chocolate lingerie, but that does sound appealing also), reading, blogging… and have I mentioned she is a kindred spirit- a Spanko? Yep.

She realized she was a Spanko early in her relationship, but like a lot of us, had to hide it from her significant other, until recently. She finally had to let him know, last year, when her Kindle became overloaded with spanking stories.  She literally had thousands of them. A girl after my own heart.

When she did tell her husband the truth about her Spanko desires, he was open minded and supportive. Though they are not technically in a DD relationship, they do use different things to make their relationship work. And from what I have heard, he is always willing to help her out- whether it be behind the scene stuff to help make her blog better (or get her back on Facebook), or acting out a scene on her bottom, he is there as a huge support, something that is necessary for every author.

Here she is, Casey McKay, brand new author, and fellow spanko.

 

Katherine:  Thanks for coming to visit today, Casey.

Casey:   Thanks so much for having me!

Katherine:  I love meeting people with common interests. Our common interest, besides chocolate, seems to be spanking, and reading spanking books. I just discovered this side of myself recently, within the past year. How about you?

Casey:    I think I knew I was a spanko forever, lol. But I had no   clue there were books! Like romance novels with normal people, who just liked   spankings, I was so excited! I was also hiding the fact that I was   downloading these stories from my husband. LOL
I think it also was about a year ago that I started   reading them.

Katherine:  Ahhh, so hubby didn’t know you were a spanko? Or didn’t know you were reading them?

Casey:   We had definitely talked at that point. He knew that I liked being spanked, like as part of foreplay.  But I think I was too embarrassed to share how all-encompassing it was for me.

I used to try to look stuff up in secret all the time. I was so interested in spanking, and reading about it.  Then I got a kindle, and typed ‘Spanking’ into Amazon… OMG it was like the best day ever!

Katherine:  Hallelujah, spanking stories online! I felt the same way when I stumbled onto the Discipline and Desire website last year.

So hubby didn’t know any of this?

Casey:  My husband actually knew I was a spanko for 2 years before I admitted to reading spanking romance, is that weird? I was ok with him knowing I liked to be spanked, he spanked me erotically. But I didn’t want him to know that I was reading it. Does that make sense?

Katherine:  I totally understand, it kind of feels like you might be doing something wrong at first, pornographic, almost. The reading can be so much more intimate. There are so many dynamics and emotions.

Casey:  Yes, it feels very wrong! And I was being so secretive, making sure I signed out of amazon in case he stumbled upon my account. How exhausting!

Katherine:  It does sound exhausting, living two lives, right?  I loved your blog post about the “Real You”. I was in complete agreement about the façade of our everyday lives. It is so freeing to be “out” with a loved one, especially your significant other.

Casey:  Yes, it is like living two lives. I feel like I have to edit myself around everyone, but it’s nice that I can be me with my husband. It does make you feel free.

Katherine:  So what made you jump from reading, to writing spanking romance? Did you have to hide that from hubby for a while too?

Casey:  Oh he knows everything now. I am an awful secret keeper, so it didn’t take me long to confess that my kindle was chock full of erotic and spanking romances. I think he thought it was pretty amusing. He is the one who encouraged me to start writing. I originally starting writing a romance novel. It had zombies in it. LOL, don’t judge me. I started off strong and then lost my way with it.

Katherine:  Wow, ok I have to be honest. I love vampires, were’s, shifters, you name it. I love most paranormal creatures. But zombies scare the begeezus out of me.

Casey:  I agree! And zombies are not at all sexy, which is why I think I stopped writing it.  I really wanted some sex scenes, but sex with a zombie skeeved me out. What if other parts fell off?? Ack!

Katherine:  LOL. Yeah that is gross. But it would be even funnier as a spanking romance. Could you picture a zombie pulling someone over his lap for a spanking, and losing his hand on the first swat? Sorry, I’m having a Monty Python flashback.

“It’s a flesh wound!”

Casey:   LOL, I love that movie. The zombie book didn’t have spankings, maybe that’s another reason why I never finished it.

Katherine:  So you put the zombie project on the backburner. What happened next?

Casey:  Well, hubby encouraged me to keep writing, so I ended up writing Catch a Falling Star. I still think it was one of the most exciting and scariest things I’d ever done. Writing spanking scenes and sex scenes! I was like, what am I doing?

Katherine:  You did a great job with the scenes. The sex was hot. And I loved the spankings. I also really liked the “tell me what you want” premise. Your male MC does a great job of taking charge, while also helping the female MC to help herself.

“You don’t have to be afraid to ask for what you want,”

I really liked that quote.

Casey:  Thanks. I feel like my husband says that to me a lot, and it simultaneously annoys me and turns me on. It’s like I want you to KNOW already, but at the same time its sweet that he’s asking. I’m glad you liked it!

Katherine:  Yes, my husband is also not the mind reader I want him to be.  Alas.

Your husband supports you in other ways also, correct?

Casey:  Yes, my husband published my book for me. Then he set everything up – my blog, twitter, Facebook, he even helped me pick my pen name. I don’t think I would have been able to figure out most of it without him.

Katherine:  That’s awesome that he is so supportive!  What a great transition from reading to writing.
Speaking of reading, it sounds like you have a Kindle full of stories. Do you have any favorites?

Casey:    The first spanking story I downloaded was Renee Rose’s The Elusive O.
And I loved the way she wrote! I bought her other 4 books   she had out at the time, and I was hooked! I devoured her books!

Katherine:  Ooh, I haven’t read that one yet.  Renee is awesome. I totally agree! Any other favorites – spanking or otherwise?

Casey:  Well, I was so against paranormal anything for so long, and then I got hooked on Chicagoland Vampires, by Chloe Neill. There’s some hot sex in those.

Katherine:  I’ll check it out.  I love vampires and sex!

Casey:  On the spanking side, I’ve actually been trying to read less so I can get more writing done. But I downloaded Coming to Terms- thinking I could read a story at a time. That didn’t happen, I finished it in a day and a half. I was completely absorbed!

 Katherine:  I understand that! I had to force myself to go to sleep some nights.  Reading does that to me sometimes.

Casey: LOL, we could chat for hours about all the books I love.  I love nerd talking about books.

Katherine:  Me too! But we should probably finish up with the spankings first. Ooh, I’m having another Holy Grail moment.  🙂

Sorry. So, you have your first book published, and it’s doing well in the world of spanking romance. What’s next for you?

Casey:  I’m working on a Victorian romance. I am so in love with that genre.  I feel like I’m on Wikipedia a lot now looking things up. But I’m having so much fun with it!

Katherine:  Great! I can’t wait to read it. I love that era. Good luck!

Casey:  Thanks, I’m hoping to finish it up soon.

Katherine: Yeah! I’m sure your readers will enjoy it.

So how would you like me to describe you? I call myself a spanko in a DD relationship. I read, write, and fantasize about spankings every day. What about you?

Casey:  Well, I guess you could describe me as a lifelong spanko and romance junkie. I love happy endings. I like reading anything with spankings and sex in it, and write the same kind of stories.

Katherine:  Perfect. There’s my intro.

Thank you so much for visiting with me today, Casey. I had so much fun getting to know you.

Good luck with your reading and writing. I can’t wait to read your next story.

Casey:  Even if it’s Zombie spankings?

Katherine: LOL, even zombie spankings. But no sex, please.  🙂

Casey:  Zombie sex! I’m going to have nightmares

Katherine:  Me too! Ugh.

Thanks again for visiting with me.

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(Here is a very enjoyable scene from Catch a Falling Star, where Luke takes Mac to the bathroom for a stress relief spanking that turns into an even sexier kind of release.)

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No one will hear us.” Luke looked at her reassuringly, “so tell me what you want.”

            Mac drew in a breath, “Please spank me.” He saw her face redden in the mirror.

            Luke lowered her panties to the floor and picked up the brush. Mac’s eyes were trained on his face in the mirror.

            “I like you being able to look at me while I spank you,” he smiled at Mac. Her face grew redder.

            “You’re so sexy, Molly.” He ran a hand over the creamy skin of her luscious ass, she was still a little pink from the night before. Then he brought the back of the hairbrush down in the middle of her left cheek. Mac let out a little yelp. The brush left a pink oval in its wake, Luke laid down a matching oval on her right cheek. Mac gasped and he ran his hand over her ass again.

            “Does it hurt?” he asked her in a low throaty voice.

            “Yes.” She was watching him in the mirror, and then she smiled, “a little.”

            He brought the brush down again, first the left, then the right, then right across the middle. Mac jumped a little with each swing, “Well that’s the point, right Molly?” Luke asked, she looked at him quizzically, “a spanking’s supposed to hurt.”

            She opened her mouth to answer but before she could he laid down another set, turning her cheeks a deeper shade of pink. Luke’s cock jumped as he looked down at her ass. He leaned down and slipped a finger into her wet core, Mac let out a moan. “You’re so wet Molly,” he breathed out.

            She opened her eyes and looked at him in the mirror, “I’m wet for you.”

            He withdrew his finger and brought the brush down three more times across her cheeks, harder this time than before. Mac gasped, “Ah, Luke.” Her fingers gripped the edge of the sink harder.

            “Look at me, Molly,” her eyes flew open and met his, “are you okay?”

            She nodded and bit her bottom lip. Then she stood up and turned around to face him. Mac took the brush from his hands and placed it back on the counter. “**** me,” she said into his ear and she started unbuckling his belt, “please, I need you.”

– Catch a Falling Star, Casey McKay

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Katherine’s Connections – Kate Strand (Deathless Love)

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My latest connection is from a Renee Rose, paranormal spanking romance. I am actually starting to wonder if Renee writes stories specifically for me.  LOL, I know that’s not the case, but in my nice little world of egocentricity, I am going to keep thinking that way.  🙂

I love the strength Renee applies to her characters while also giving them flaws. And it is so easy for me to connect with her characters. Some of them really seem like me.

This latest connection is a character from one of her earlier works, Deathless Love.  It’s a paranormal work, which is probably my favorite genre. While I like some realism in the stories I read, I prefer to escape into them. This makes paranormal a great genre for me. It has just the right amount of realism mixed in with fantasy. Add to the mix, a little bit of spanking and sex, and I am in Seventh Heaven!

Renee created a wonderfully engaging character in Kate Strand. I also have to acknowledge that I love her name because one of my nicknames is Kate.

Kate is a talented, outgoing, beautiful, and charismatic woman, – the lead singer of a band, who loses a lot of her edge when she is not behind the mic. When she is performing, she is confident and charismatic.  But when off stage, she loses some of that.  She doesn’t have the microphone to hide behind anymore.

I also like to sing, and that’s how I feel behind the microphone. Center of attention, with the mic in hand and a full band behind me (though I prefer to be backup usually), is more comfortable, and more my zone. It’s safer than talking with another person. It’s less intimate, less vulnerable.

Once off stage, Kate’s true nature settles in. She is unsure of the male attention she receives, less confident, less able to deal with confrontation comfortably.  In one early scene, she is visibly shaken by the unwanted attentions of another man. But it’s not necessarily his attention that bothers her. It’s her inability to react comfortably. She doesn’t know how to shut him down nicely. She doesn’t want to hurt his feelings.

This is exactly how I am. I can’t stand the thought of hurting another person’s feelings, or having them unhappy with me.

Then Kate has a very intimate interaction with Dom, a vampire, her boss, a Dominant. She gets a little drunk, and falls off the stage. Dom takes her into his office to make sure she is ok, and ends up spanking her over his desk. They actually have some great sex afterwards, but this first spanking was what really turned me on.

Since Kate is a submissive at heart, she finds herself drawn to Dom’s strength and dominance. But she is also confused and slightly embarrassed by her reaction.

Kate likes the eroticism in his spankings and dominance.  They even make a rule where she gets spanked every time she rolls her eyes at Dom. But Dom agrees to make them fun spankings, and she agrees whole heartedly.

I am also very aroused by spankings and shows of dominance from my husband. We are walking a very fine line between spanking eroticism, and Domestic Discipline. And it works for us.

Just like it works for Kate and Dom in their new relationship.

There are also scenes where Dom gives Kate guidelines and takes charge, like when he takes over the move from her apartment to take some of the pressure off her. He reads her very well. (Then again, he is a 500 year old vampire, and not your typical human male.) Kate doesn’t appreciate his taking charge at times, but she also feels safe under his leadership. A conundrum for any woman today.

Kate even asks Dom to help her with her eating habits, like cutting wheat from her diet, because she wants him to set boundaries. She seeks accountability, not tyranny.  This builds her strength, and enables her to help herself.

This is what I long for in my DD relationship; protection, boundaries, strength, and helping me to help myself.  I am a grown woman, who needs to know that I can protect myself. But it sure does help to know that my safety net is there, or that my coach will give me a little push when I need it.

Though Kate submits easily to Dom, this doesn’t make her weak. It just shows that Dom is stronger, more experienced, and willing to be there for her.  Dom is the safety net, the protective wall.  He doesn’t imprison her with his dominance, but he protects her from others and herself.

I also liked the confrontation scene in the restaurant. When Kate’s meal isn’t done correctly, she fears confronting the waiter. But Dom gives her a push. Dom doesn’t do it for her, he doesn’t talk to the waiter, but he tells Kate he knows she has the strength in her to speak up for herself. So she does. The food is fixed properly, no harm, no foul. I loved that scene. She stood up for herself, and didn’t get hurt. Yeah, Kate!

I have been such a people pleaser for so much of my life, that it is hard for me to confront others. I can see Kate’s fears and totally empathize with them.

I can also relate to her desire for consistency.

In one scene, Kate gets in a lot of trouble because she forgets to put down the shades, hurting Dom. This could have killed him or his friends, and he had been very firm in that one rule. Shades down when the sun is out.

With Renee’s permission, I’ll post the punishment scene at the end.

It is INTENSE!

But it is completely necessary. Kate desires consistency, safety, and an environment in which she can grow, and be protected if need be. Boundaries are as necessary as food and water.  If Dom had not reacted with a firm punishment, I think she would have resented him for it.

This is how I feel when my husband is inconsistent with me.  Consistency means safety, both physically and emotionally.

Though her punishment is hard, she toughs it out, because she really is stronger than she gives herself credit for, and she has already agreed that she made a huge mistake. She desires his consistency.

I really liked Kate, and found a lot of myself in her.  Her erotic needs, her spanko desires, her submissiveness, her desire for boundaries, while also being appreciated for her own strength and abilities- they all mirror my own desires and needs.

I loved this book. I really enjoyed connecting with Kate. And I think we share a lot more than just a name.

Here is the yummy punishment scene, I was talking about. Very delicious, especially if you have any spanko in you.  🙂

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Kate’s knees were jelly. She tripped down the stairs and into Dom’s bedroom with her heart pounding in her throat. Oh God. There was a belt on the bed. She was sure it was purposeful. This was it.

Her first real punishment spanking. She didn’t count the time he spanked her to tears over snapping at him, because he hadn’t really been angry then and he had done it to relieve her stress. This time he was angry—she could tell. She paced around the room, tears choking her. Her face burned with the pressure of them. She sat on the bed and started to cry.

The door opened and Dom filled the doorway, holding a wooden spoon. She stood up and ran to him, clutching his arm so he could find her in space. “Dom, I’m so sorry. I was in a hurry and I just totally forgot that I’d opened the shutters.” Her tears started up fresh again.

To her surprise, he wrapped his arms around her and held her tight. She sobbed into his chest. When she had calmed down a bit, he drew her away and looked in her direction, although his blind eyes missed focusing on her eyes. They were a horrible sight—bloody mucous was oozing out of the inner and outer corners of his eyes and the whites were completely bloodshot. His skin was as red as a lobster, like a redhead who’d spent all day at the beach without sunscreen. Some places had weeping blisters.

“Kate, there’s no excuse for your irresponsibility. I thought I made it clear how serious it was to leave the shutters closed.”

“You did,” she choked. “You absolutely did. I know and I feel so bad,” her voice broke again and she drew in several hiccupping breaths.

Dom just waited.

“Are you going to spank me?” she asked in a whisper.

“What do you think I should do?” he asked quietly.

Ah. This was the consent piece, again. He wasn’t going to hurt her without her permission. Of course she didn’t want to be spanked. Especially not with his belt. But she’d caused him to be badly hurt and she felt absolutely horrible about it. And spanking was the solution on the table. She leaned her forehead against his chest and nodded. She couldn’t bring herself to say the words—to actually ask him to spank her. He understood.

“Take off your clothes,” he commanded.

He went to the bed, reaching his legs in front of him tentatively, until one of them hit the edge of it. He sat down, turning his face in her direction.

Knowing he was blind somehow made stripping off her clothes a little easier, but not that much. There was something about baring herself to be punished that made her feel so very small and vulnerable.

“Can I just pee first?” she asked in voice that sounded too squeaky.

He nodded without comment. He still looked so stern and remote. Her thighs trembled as she peed and her breath was coming in quick little gasps. She returned and stood in front of him, her belly doing flip flops. He still held the wooden spoon in one hand. He felt for her hips and then pushed her across his knee, with her head resting on the bed.

There was no waiting in anticipation this time. It wasn’t a game. He started immediately spanking hard with the spoon, taking her breath away with the thud of it. She gasped and squirmed. He threw his free leg over to scissor hers so that she was firmly pinned across his knee. It was worse than any spanking he’d given her, and this was just the warm up. As the burn increased, she struggled harder to escape the punishing smacks of the wooden spoon. It seemed he was applying it all over her already burning bottom—smarting every inch until she imagined it was as red as his burnt skin.

“Please, Dom!” she was starting to panic. “Stop! Please!” Fear had welled up in her. She couldn’t possibly take any more, she was sure of it. And he was so angry, he was sure to overdo it. And that wasn’t even considering his vampire strength. Oh God, were his fangs out? He’d warned her to be careful of him when he was angry. She was flipping out completely. She reached a hand back to block the spoon and felt Dom’s body jerk in response. He snatched her wrist and pinned it behind her back.

“Do not reach, Kate! I could break your fingers that way.” Then he gave her five of the hardest spanks she had ever felt. She screamed bloody murder the whole time, trying in vain to get free of his merciless hold.

He lifted her abruptly onto her feet, then and rubbed her bottom. She was completely agitated and confused. “Go stand in the corner. I think you need a break,” he said in the most ordinary tone, as if he hadn’t just spanked the living daylights out of her.

 

(c) Renee Rose and Stormy Night Publications

 

Renee Rose, erotic romance author, did not come out of the closet as a spanko until she published her spanking romance, Betrothed. A lifelong writer, she has a B.A. in creative writing from Knox College, where she won the Davenport prize for both fiction and poetry, and the Lorraine Smith prize for literary criticism.  She spent thirteen years in technical writing before she found a way to incorporate her deepest darkest spanking fantasies into fiction and express a part of her that longed to see the light. She is now passionate about supporting others in accepting and exploring their kink, whatever that may be.  Leave a comment on her blog at www.reneeroseromance.com and join the conversation!

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A blurb about Kate and Dom’s next short story, Deathless Discipline

Although spankings top the list of Kate’s favorite activities with her vampire husband Dom, they are usually the highly erotic foreplay to making mind-bogglingly amazing love.

Not this time. Dom feels that he must lay down the law when Kate not only stays out much longer than she planned and doesn’t answer his calls, but also lies to him about it. There’s only one thing to do—give her a long, hard, bare-bottom discipline spanking that she will not soon forget.

Follow these characters from Renee Rose’s full-length novel Deathless Love as their relationship continues to grow!

A bonus short story called Mary Catherine Learns Her Lesson is also included, which takes place at the No Return nightclub featured prominently in Deathless Love.

 

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