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The Coach’s Discipline is officially out – and I am kaput!

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The Coach’s Discipline is officially live on Amazon, and I’m not kidding when I say I am emotionally and physically kaput! 🙂

LOL, I stayed up until after midnight, harassing (I mean excitedly letting my friends know:) ) friends, putting up buy links, editing my pages, and um, harassing a few more friends. 🙂

Ok, dear friends whom I texted, emailed, pm’d, called and / or telekinetically contacted with my exuberant news, please forgive me. I promise I will be much more low key with the next book. 🙂

Needless to say, I am exhausted after all the excitement and anticipation, (and being awake after ten pm!).

But I am a happy kind of exhausted. Grinning from ear to ear. Collapsing into my lazy chair with me feet up, ready for wine and chocolate.

I’m not too tired to give thanks though.

I am so beyond grateful to all of my friends who supported my big launch party today. Thanks, guys and gals!

I am thankful to Spanking Romance Reviews (especially Renee Rose and Adaline Raine) for hosting my awesome launch party.

A big thank you to all the prize donors for the launch party (Etta Stark, Renee Rose, Cara Bristol, Natasha Knight, Casey McKay, Adaline Raine, Tara Finnegan, Maren Smith, and Patricia Green. And thanks a ton to Tony, the cover Artisan for his awesome header for the event! :))

I am grateful for close friends like Casey McKay, Adaline Raine and Natasha Knight, who have listened to me (um, over emote, might be a good word for it 🙂 ) this past year. Thanks for the shoulders, gals. ❤

I’m especially thankful to Jamie Miles, the editor at SNP, who not only did such a great job of editing my story, but she also made me feel like a real person, not a number. ❤

I’m grateful to Patricia Green for her wisdom and kindness and support.

And I am especially grateful to Renee Rose and Corinne Alexander, for their constant support and love; their friendship, and their faith in me, even when I couldn’t see it in myself. ❤

I appreciate being a part of this awesome community.

Thank you, all friends!

I hope I didn’t miss anyone.

Love y’all!

Thanks for making this a great release with me ❤

hugs!

-Kate

 

Thankfulness 2013 – A Thankful Transition into the Christmas Season!

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Wow, what a busy week!

I don’t know about all of you, but this week went by fast!

But it was the good kind of fast!

It was a week full of:

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Playing outside,

Making messes inside,

Spending quality time together until we needed personal breaks. (At which point, we turned on the old Frosty and Santa movies—the ones with Burl Ives—and snuggled up with sleeping bags, popcorn and M & M’s.)

It was almost a little too unstructured for my tastes, but we worked through it. (And the salty sweetness of our popcorn concoction made everything ok.  I also snuck some skittles into mine, so I could get a quick red dye fix!)

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Thanksgiving itself, was very low key.  We spent it with our friends and their children, who are the same age as ours.

We ate a lot of delicious food, relaxed, and talked about grown up stuff like:

Books,

Movies,

The scary stuff that freaked us out as kids, that is considered lame by today’s standards (e.g. the Wicked Witch from Wizard of Oz).

I even turned a conversation about the neighbor’s coyote issue, into a conversation about shape shifters and government cover up!

And I didn’t embarrass my husband too much! (At least he didn’t kick me under the table this time. Maybe he is just getting desensitized?)

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It was wonderful! I felt truly thankful to be surrounded by my loving family and close friends, in the intimate, and not over stimulating environment.

There was no crying or pouting or stomping of feet – and the kids behaved very well also.

It was the perfect ending to a week full of thankfulness that I plan to hang on to as long as I can.

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Yesterday, my daughters and I cleaned up the living room, and put up their little 4 foot, personalized Christmas trees.

Then we pulled out the manger scene. (If you look closely, you can see a unicorn and two pink trees. 🙂 )

My favorite memory includes the following comments:

“I’m not sure where Baby Jesus is. Check in the rest of the packing paper.”

“Don’t drop him, he’ll lose his head.”

“Mommy, this angel is beautiful. She looks just like you.”

“Can I put baby purple bunny in the manger too?”

“All right, if you want to put a unicorn next to the Angel, go ahead.”

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This is the earliest we have ever started the Christmas season in our house.

But it also feels the most relaxed.  This time I am going to try to remember the REASON, and not just the season.

I’m praying that I don’t overspend and go crazy like past years.  (I tend to over compensate, not having family nearby.)

Hubby has already agreed to keep me “in check” if I start stressing or spending too much. 🙂

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So here’s to thankful hearts, warm bottoms, and a blessed holiday season for everyone.

Blessings and spankings!

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Thankfulness 2013- The Bully Effect

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Today’s post may be a little deeper than I had originally intended, but bear with me please. I want to talk about something that is important to me.

It’s the topic of bullying.

We hear about child bullying, and the devastating impact it has on its young victims.  But what we don’t often hear about is adult bullying.  It actually happens more often than we realize.

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Here are some general types of adult bullies:

(Taken from Bullyingstatistics.org)

  1.  Narcissistic Adult Bully – Self-centered and not sharing of empathy. Feels good about self when putting others down.
  2. Verbal Adult Bully– Uses sarcastic or demeaning language to dominate or humiliate someone. This can lead to emotional and psychological stress and / or depression.
  3. Impulsive Adult Bully – Spontaneous acts, and unplanned bullying due to their own personal stress.

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Bullying is so damaging to the soul.

I know because I was bullied by someone very close to me, as a child. And again, recently by an adult from the same social and professional circle.

It took me a long time to get over the pain and humiliation; the feeling of worthlessness, the embarrassment of knowing that I was not strong enough to confront these actions; the hopelessness that I had no value because of the demeaning and condemning treatment of this bully.

But I am posting today with a thankful heart, and a strong voice.

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  •  I am not worthless.
  •  I will not allow myself to be put down by someone else’s words.
  •  I am a woman of strength and value, and will choose to accept what comes into my heart.
  •  I choose whether to take unacceptable, degrading words from another; or to walk away – it is my choice, and this cannot be taken from me.
  •  I choose to believe in myself.
  •  And I choose to speak up.

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Bullying, no matter the form: Verbal, nonverbal, child, adult, man or woman – IS NOT ACCEPTABLE!

I am NOT thankful for the bullies in my life, but I am thankful for receiving the gift of growth from these events.

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After taking time off from the groups I had been so afraid to reenter, I learned that I was stronger than I had ever given myself credit for.

I made friends– true friends who accept me for who I am (quirky flaws and all 🙂 ).

I learned that I have a voice, and I can make it heard.

I learned to set boundaries for acceptable and not acceptable behavior.

And finally, I learned not to be ashamed to ask for what I want or need.

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Asking my husband for a stress relief spanking, is a lot easier now that I understand the validity of my needs.  Sometimes, it’s embarrassing to be vulnerable. But I have finally realized that vulnerability towards a loved one, especially my spouse, does not make me less of a woman.  It doesn’t define me.  And with the strength that I am slowly building, I am becoming more and more comfortable speaking my mind and voicing my concerns.

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I am thankful for the growth and healing – that has come from these painful events. I am thankful for the scars. They don’t define me. I define myself.

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Thanks for listening!

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Here are a few more pics that I found. I hope you see one that you like.  If you have any other great pictures or links about this important topic, please share.

Blessings, love, and safe community!

-Katherine

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noone can make you feel inferior

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say out loud love and no bullying

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self-esteem lots of diff colors

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Update:

After I finished this post, I went online to search for a bit more about adult bullying.

Here are a few other interesting links.

http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/adult-bullying.html

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sue-scheff/adult-bullying-harassment_b_4256954.html

http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/topic/bullying/adult-bullying

http://shine.yahoo.com/healthy-living/adult-bullying-and-how-to-stop-it-.html

http://www.themercury.com.au/news/tasmania/today-tassie-takes-a-stand-wear-blue-and-say-no-to-bullying-and-add-your-name-to-the-list-below/story-fnj4f7k1-1226727938287

Here is a really cool charm bracelet that I found!

http://www.antibullyingpledge.com/

Thankfulness 2013 – Intro

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With the holidays fast approaching, it’s important to me that I stop and reflect on my blessings.  I have been blessed with so much this past year, and I want to publically share these; and more importantly, I want to share my gratitude.

(Holy cow, I know I used a form of the word “bless” three different times in one paragraph. But “extolled”, “lauded”, “sanctioned” and “supported” just didn’t fit the tone I was going for.  So I am sticking with “blessings”.)

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Starting tomorrow, I will post a “Thanks- A- Day” post every day, and will talk about something I am grateful for.  It might be silly, it might be serious. It all depends on the mood I am in, and how sentimental I am feeling at the time.

Please feel free to join me this week as I share the different things I am thankful for.

And as is usual for all of my blog posts, please join in on the discussion.  I would love to hear your comments, your experiences, your blessings.  We are all part of one beautiful community, and I am thankful for each of you!

See you tomorrow, when the thankfulness starts with:

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“Thankful for–

“Taking the plunge into the scary, deep waters of spanking and discipline”.

A brief recap of how our spanking journey began, and my thankfulness for hubby’s support. (and his hard hand. well, sometimes. 🙂 )

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Thanks, friends!!

See you tomorrow!

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My Favorite Mother’s Day Memory

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I awoke (late. 9 am) to the sounds of giggling and whispering this morning, Mother’s Day 2013.  So I threw on my pajama pants, and went out to investigate, and see if I had a cool mother’s day surprise. I told myself to act surprised when daddy and the girls gave me my present.

(My daughter had been throwing hints at me all week. “So mommy, do you wish you had an I-phone?”

Yes, yes, a thousand times YES!)

I pasted a big smile on my face, and gratefully acknowledged the beautifully hand drawn cards, and coffee. Then they excitedly took me by my hands to show me my surprise out on the back porch. It was the moment I had been longing for, for ages, ever since I realized the ten year old next door had an I-phone.

(“But honey, all the other kids and their mommies have an I-phone. Can’t I pleeeeeeeeease have one?” I would whine incessantly. )

I opened my eyes (they had made me close them for full effect.), and saw it. It was beautiful, breathtaking. It was…

A cleaned off pack porch, with brand new chair cushions, and a pot of flowers on the table.

“Why, thank you, everyone. It’s perfect!” I exclaimed while surreptitiously looking around to see if the I-phone was hidden somewhere.

In the flowers? Nope.

Under the cushions? Nu-uh.

In my husband’s shirt? I hugged him EXTRA hard to check. But no, hard, plastic rectangular protuberances.

And then he explained my gift.

“I thought you might like to write out here. The weather is perfect, and you can have some quiet time whenever you want it.”

“This is great, honey. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness and hard work,” I told him, meaning every word.

The porch had been DISGUSTING.  And I wouldn’t even allow my worst enemy (or my sister-in-law) to sit on those old cushions. Well, I might have let her sit on them. Maybe.

He continued, “I wanted to get you, um, something more, but it was a little too much money after our little vacation last week,”

I agreed. We had spent a little extra money, but it had been so worth it.

It made me realize a few things.

Did I really need an I-phone to make me happy?

Mother’s Day was about graciously accepting the love from my children, and trying to remember that I was indeed blessed to be their mommy.

I reveled in their affirmation of love, and all the hard work that they had done to bless and honor me as their mommy.

And that was enough for me.

We went to church, followed by our annual Mother’s day Brunch. I had oringally wanted to go to brunch- you know, pancakes, eggs, bacon, lotsa cream and sugar with a little bit of coffee. Mmmmmm. Watching the little bitties drown their pancakes in syrup, using only their mouths to get the last little bit of whipped cream off the plate, and trying to let them hug me without getting my pretty dress too dirty. (Sticky syrup hands are ok on a rayon dress. Blueberry and strawberry fingers- not so much.  I choose my hugs with discretion after brunch.)

But hubby had suggested that we would have to wait a while to get in to any good brunch place, and suggested the deli down the street.  This was a very good call on his part. The little bitties and I (ok, especially me) get a little crabby when we have to wait for our meals.  We had a lovely lunch, which took half the time of a normal brunch, and returned home for a quick rest.

I am taking a few minutes to write out my thoughts from the day (while sitting on my beautiful, and more importantly, clean, back porch).  Then I will head out to the trails for a run.

It has been a wonderful day.  And I can honestly say, I’m happy I didn’t get exactly what I had hoped for. Instead, I got to build new memories with my hubby and children.

  • The girls giggled over their food, and snuck over to grab the strawberries and melons off my plate. (LOL, how many moms ever get to eat their own food?) As long as they didn’t hug me afterwards, I was alright with anything.
  • We joked about new nicknames for each of us. The girls decided I was “Ichilolo”, and daddy was proclaimed “Manure”.  Honestly, I did not make up these names. They came up with them all by themselves. J
  • Both girls gave me new handmade cards
  • My daughter gave me a Hershey Kiss. I confirmed that this was actually received from church today, and not from a candy basket from last Halloween. She also brought up the idea that maybe it would make me happier if I shared it with her. So I bit off the top, and gave her the rest.
  • They both called me beautiful. One said I had lost weight. One said I was a genius.

Mother’s Day could not have been any more perfect. I have the love of my husband, the love and adoration of two awesome girls, and a pretty blessed life.  I love being their mother. And I am thankful for them and my husband.

Happy Mother’s Day!

-Katherine